Bøker av Alison Poulsen

Whether you are the Pursuer desiring more intimacy or the Distancer seeking more autonomy, "Desire & Desirability" gives you insight into the dangers of the Pursuer/Distancer relationship pattern and the tools to break free of it. When Pursuers seek too much connection or attachment, Distancers feel smothered or trapped. When Distancers feel too much pressure for togetherness, they become anxious about losing their freedom and their sense of self. Ultimately, when pushed too hard for increased connection, Distancers often withdraw from the relationship leaving the Pursuer feeling rejected or heartbroken. To sustain a mutually-fulfilling relationship, the first step is knowing how to change your own behavior to transform the relationship dynamic. Real-life examples illustrate ways to transform desire based on need into desirability based on fullness. The examples focus primarily on couples in loving relationships but the principles discussed hold true for all types of relationships including parents and children, co-workers, and friends. The strategies in this book will empower you to achieve a more sustainable and happier relationship based on mutual desire.

How you communicate on a daily basis determines whether a relationship will become life-enhancing and fulfilling, or deteriorate into frustration and disappointment. Tone of voice, choice of words and body language make all the difference in the quality of your relationships. Similarly, your sense of self and wellbeing are formed by the totality of your thoughts and inner dialogue. This book is a collection of over 200 examples of how you can transform common yet ineffective thoughts and statements into effective communication. Each example includes a brief psychological explanation and illustrates the skills needed to communicate successfully.By recognizing how you may be participating in certain relationship patterns, you can exercise the primary power you have in your relationships - namely to decide how you will respond in a given situation. By gaining self-empowerment and enhancing your communication skills you will transform the quality of your relationships and live the life you desire.