Bøker av Ilse Sand

What does it mean to be a highly sensitive person? How is it different from introversion, or shyness? And what unique advantages does high sensitivity have to offer? Ilse Sand answers all these questions and encourages other highly sensitive people to ride out the lows and embrace the creativity and highs of being highly sensitive.

Shame might be far from the first thing that comes to mind when you think about what's causing your problems. Shame is hidden, and rarely something we talk about, but it can underlie challenges that we deal with on a daily basis, including anxiety, depression and low self-esteem. This book will help you understand what shame is, how it arises and, in turn, how to overcome it. With exercises in each chapter, it provides tools to reflect on, confront and free yourself from shame. The book also includes a questionnaire to assess how much shame impacts you.Be kind to yourself and rediscover your empathy for yourself with Confronting Shame.

What does it mean to be an introverted or highly sensitive person in our fast-paced, sociable world? Are these traits caused by nature or nurture? Ilse Sand answers these questions with sage advice and suggests ways for introverts to face the challenges of jobs, parties, and conflicts, whilst drawing on their imaginative and intellectual strengths.

In this new edition of her bestselling guide on what it means to be a highly sensitive person, Ilse Sand encourages other highly sensitive people to embrace their unique creative potential. It is full of new activities to support wellbeing, cope with overwhelm and boost self-esteem for highly sensitive people.

Do you often hold back from saying what you feel or think? Do you feel uncertain whether others will be able to like you after you have made a mistake? Or do you grow uncomfortable when you stand out from the people you are with, either due to your attire, your needs or your opinions?Your parents, your grandparents and all your ancestors can strengthen your courage to stand your ground so that you can be more comfortable being who you are. Even if some of them have passed away or are simply unwilling or unable to support you. With ancestry therapy, you can work with your relationships to your kinfolk without involving them.Your ancestors play a very important role in your self-understanding. You carry their genes, and in a way, they live within you. Therefore, it matters a great deal if your perception is that your relatives are critical of you and want to change you as opposed to having their support.In accessible language, Ilse Sand describes how ancestry therapy - which includes various tools such as letter writing - can help you get loving confirmation from important people who are part of your roots. A confirmation that will strengthen the feeling of interconnectedness with - and being anchored in - your kinfolk, and which will give you more courage to be who you are, also in your other relationships. Ancestry therapy can also help you heal relationship issues that remain after an interaction that hurt.In the book's numerous examples, you can also find inspiration to see yourself and your kinfolk in a new and probably more loving way.Ilse Sand is a psychotherapist and a pastor. She is the author of nine books, including the international bestseller Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World. Her books have been translated into twenty-four languages.

For you, who wants to increase your ability to help people around youThis book is a practical guide on using specifically selected, simple psychotherapeutic methods in supportive dialogues, whether they take place in a kitchen, on a hiking trip or at a patient's bedside.It could be when a good friend ends up in a bitter divorce, your spouse has problems, or a person at your workplace grieves. Asking the right questions is much more important than having the right answers.In this book, best-selling author Ilse Sand shares her life-long experience helping others through conversation. She provides specific tools for asking beneficial questions, dealing with shame and fear, finding a more intimate and heartfelt way to talk about the problem, and focusing on life principles that box up another person. These techniques can give you and whomever you're helping more space, meaning, and direction in life.You can also use the tools in the book in your own life.Ilse Sand is a Denmark-based psychotherapist and pastor. She is the author of Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World. Her books have been translated into more than 24 languages.

Weighed down by a bad conscience, guilt, or feelings of inadequacy? Do you begin to sweat or have fearful thoughts if you make someone feel bad, or if you are close to someone who isn't doing well? Do you often deny yourself in order to say yes to others, and thus avoid a guilty conscience? If so, this book is tailor-made for you. A guilty conscience can both guide and misguide you. Sometimes it can show you the way to make amends. Other times it might pressure you into doing more than you have the strength and energy for, or perhaps to sacrifice yourself and your values. See Yourself with Friendly Eyes provides various tools for examining your guilty conscience and letting go of the exaggerated part of it that unnecessarily weighs you down. The book also shows you how to adjust your personal rules of conduct to feel less guilty, rid yourself of guilt belonging to someone else, and take responsibility for the guilt that's yours while sharing the rest with others when relevant. And you also receive guidance in forgiving yourself. See Yourself with Friendly Eyes includes a test to measure how prone you are to developing a guilty conscience. "A bad conscience doesn't necessarily have to be permanent; it's something we can work on. Ilse Sand manages to describe the processes of the conscience in a kind way. The book is warmhearted and easily understood, and it sends the reader - a friendly eye."The Journal of Psychotherapy, issue #4, 2020 ¿Ilse Sand is a Denmark-based psychotherapist and pastor. She is the bestselling author of Highly Sensitive People in an Insensitive World. Her 9 books have been translated into more than 24 languages.

Highly sensitive people tend to be natural and popular caretakers, though this practice can be over-stimulating and draining for them. This book offers effective strategies and tools for sensitive people to hone their care-taking strengths in a balanced and sustainable way.

An overview of how and why people engage in psychological defence mechanisms and the impact of these on their personal relationships. Through simple language and anecdotes, the author offers tips on how to break bad habits that hinder close relationships.

Emotions are not always what they seem to be. Whether you're trying to comprehend your own feelings or someone else's, this book will give you the tools to better understand yourself and others on an emotional level. The author unpicks emotions such as anxiety, jealousy, anger, and happiness, and offers methods to cope when feelings get too strong.